Solved Terrible at fighting

[Jason]

Hi Grey,

In options the only choice I see is arcade and realism mine is set arcade. Maybe something I internal setting?
Thanks as always for all you do.

 

[Grey Roger]

Found it! It is indeed in the "Options" menu, under "Game Preferences". For some reason, when I first go there, I can only see the first few choices (look at the slider on the scroll bar):


If I click on a random setting (it doesn't matter which one, as none of these are the one I want) and then go back, I can then scroll all the way down, specifically to the section "Realism settings: character", where one of the settings is "Experience gain":

 

[Jason]

Sorry to be so long responding. Thank you, again that has fixed it as you knew it would.